I'm sure all of you have heard of long distance relationships. you think they cant work. you think that by letting yourself love someone else in a different state or country that you are ultimatily setting yourself up for heartache. while that might be true for some people (not naming anyone) the truth of that matter is simple. the only way you are going to fail in a LDR is if you believe you are going to fail. you have to trust your partner, and by trusting i dont mean being some psyco-stalker girlfriend who has their head knee deep in everything her boyfriend does, or isnt doing. when you are in a long distance relationship there is a lot more that goes into it becides rapid "phone sex" and voice to voice-only communication. you need to set goals in your relationship for the future. you cant just give up when your boyfriend or girlfriend doesnt call you for a day or two. granted your partnership is based on one of those lovely phone calls that doesnt mean you have to rely on just that one source of communication. see, you dont want to run out of things to talk about because then your LDR no longer is fun and exciting. you get bored and then you start thinking "god i could be having so much fun with other people than sitting here without saying anything" and thats probably a main factor of why people fail at their own relationship. because they dont give it an effort to try to hang on. they give up when the going gets tough.
ive dont quite a bit of research on LDR's and im going to share with you what i have learned.
-Did you know that LDR's and relgular relationships have nearly identical levels of relationship satisfaction, trust, intimacy, and commitment if not more?
-Did you know that 7 million couples (14 million people) are in a LDR as of right now?
-THE TOP TEN WAYS to stay sane in you LDR
-Maintain a satisfying and intimate relationship (be romantic!)
-Socialize (theres no use in being lonely because you get needy and you end up smothering your partner to death)
-Find a confident (talk out your relationship problems with a friend and get advice but dont forget to give it too!)
-Touching (its not cheating. give people hugs and enjoy innocent physical interactions with friends)
-Take control (dont get depressed or start having anxiety attacks. you can do this. be in control of your emotions)
-POSTIVE thinking! (i cant stress that enough! if you think negitivly you will fail.)
-View the separation as temporary (nothing is permanent)
-Acknowledge eachothers contributions (give compliments like "you need to take a day off from taking care of everybody" or "im proud of you for...")
-Give gifts (like pictures, t-shirts, basically anything that they can be reminded of you by)
-Sex (dont cheat! but study your skills while appart, learn new things to do together in the bedroom, studys show that having an intimate sex life with your partner will strenghten your relationship)
i hope you all have learned something and feel more comfident about your LDR! keep up the good work and dont give up. there is still hope. just give it time. thank you and goodbye for now.
yours truely,
Shianne.
ive dont quite a bit of research on LDR's and im going to share with you what i have learned.
-Did you know that LDR's and relgular relationships have nearly identical levels of relationship satisfaction, trust, intimacy, and commitment if not more?
-Did you know that 7 million couples (14 million people) are in a LDR as of right now?
-THE TOP TEN WAYS to stay sane in you LDR
-Maintain a satisfying and intimate relationship (be romantic!)
-Socialize (theres no use in being lonely because you get needy and you end up smothering your partner to death)
-Find a confident (talk out your relationship problems with a friend and get advice but dont forget to give it too!)
-Touching (its not cheating. give people hugs and enjoy innocent physical interactions with friends)
-Take control (dont get depressed or start having anxiety attacks. you can do this. be in control of your emotions)
-POSTIVE thinking! (i cant stress that enough! if you think negitivly you will fail.)
-View the separation as temporary (nothing is permanent)
-Acknowledge eachothers contributions (give compliments like "you need to take a day off from taking care of everybody" or "im proud of you for...")
-Give gifts (like pictures, t-shirts, basically anything that they can be reminded of you by)
-Sex (dont cheat! but study your skills while appart, learn new things to do together in the bedroom, studys show that having an intimate sex life with your partner will strenghten your relationship)
i hope you all have learned something and feel more comfident about your LDR! keep up the good work and dont give up. there is still hope. just give it time. thank you and goodbye for now.
yours truely,
Shianne.
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