what is a cheater? well the cheater themselves defines a cheater as someone that gets caught in the act of cheating. my definition? a cheater is anyone that has sex, flirts, kisses on the lips, or thinks about doing any of that with someone that is not your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, husband, etc. its WRONG. and as a person who was just cheated on 6 times with 6 girls i sincerely have to say that it sucks.
so whats a boy/girl to do? Ive decided that's its better to just move on. yea, be pissed off. be angry. but are you truly going to let it rule your life? are you going to let yourself be depressed and sleep all day because you were hurt? i started to do that but after a while i just got tired of feeling bad for myself. its not like my life was going anywhere good. i was consciously killing my own potential. then i started to think to myself... if i really wanted revenge for the wrong doing he had done, what better way to do it than just be happy, get over it, and move on? he wanted me to me upset, he wanted me to be angry and kick things. so why should i give him what he wanted? why give him anymore of myself then i already had?
but wait, let me roll back a paragraph and let me tell you how i found out about his 6 affairs.
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once upon a time.... scratch that, once upon my reality. Ive known him for years. i seriously thought that i knew him. we decided to date about 2 and a half months ago. it was bliss. i instantly feel in love, or well, what i thought was love. we jumped into it. i was happy. i thought that he was the one. he sure as hell made me feel like he was. even when i told him i was afraid that id get hurt he said the most perfect thing ever. ''we will work on your fears one step at a time'' is that what every girl/boy wants to hear? well i know its what i wanted to hear. so i trusted him. i opened myself up and decided that if i really wanted this to work i had to give all of myself. i had to let my emotions run my relationship. so i did. then these little things started happening like little holes that were ripping apart my ''love''. a thought he was living a secret life because of this Facebook account in another name that had all his info on it and even a picture of himself as the front picture. he tried saying that he had a friend that liked to steal his idenity. so i let it go. but before i realized it this ''friend'' was popping up in every argument we had. he was always blaming this person for his actions....
he started flirting with my 2 best friends...i started getting forwarded perverted messages that weren't just for me but for this other girl....he asked me if i would let him ''fake'' date this other girl i completely hated just to hurt her...but i let it all go. because i thought i ''loved'' him. then this one thing happened that changed it all. he was commenting on Facebook with such girl, and was saying how much he loved her and wanted to be with her. how he was ''waiting'' for her and didn't give a crap about me. the person to tell me this is my current boyfriend. of course after seeing this is fresh and blood, i asked him what was going on. he blamed it on his friend, lets call him joey. i wasnt going for it this time. i made him change this passward and he gave me his new one, trying to prove he was innocent in what was said.
but i was smarter than that.
i admit. i went into this Facebook messages and read all of the messages from the moment we started dating up till the present date. 5 girls counting my 2 friends he cheated with. i found out the 6th by going onto one of his SEVEN other Facebook profiles. as if one wasn't enough to cheat on me with he had 7 accounts. i broke up with him. and he tried to guilt trip me. ''I'm going to kill myself if i cant have you. i love you. your my baby girl. ill be a better boyfriend i promise. please just give me another chance'' i never listened to him and needless to say hes not dead.
the moral to my story? move on, pick yourself up. its possible. its not the end. give yourself another life. he/she is not worth it. don't give them more of yourself then you already have. thats what they want. give them the only thing they deserve.
give them the TRUTH, never satisfy them with a LIE.
so whats a boy/girl to do? Ive decided that's its better to just move on. yea, be pissed off. be angry. but are you truly going to let it rule your life? are you going to let yourself be depressed and sleep all day because you were hurt? i started to do that but after a while i just got tired of feeling bad for myself. its not like my life was going anywhere good. i was consciously killing my own potential. then i started to think to myself... if i really wanted revenge for the wrong doing he had done, what better way to do it than just be happy, get over it, and move on? he wanted me to me upset, he wanted me to be angry and kick things. so why should i give him what he wanted? why give him anymore of myself then i already had?
but wait, let me roll back a paragraph and let me tell you how i found out about his 6 affairs.
......
once upon a time.... scratch that, once upon my reality. Ive known him for years. i seriously thought that i knew him. we decided to date about 2 and a half months ago. it was bliss. i instantly feel in love, or well, what i thought was love. we jumped into it. i was happy. i thought that he was the one. he sure as hell made me feel like he was. even when i told him i was afraid that id get hurt he said the most perfect thing ever. ''we will work on your fears one step at a time'' is that what every girl/boy wants to hear? well i know its what i wanted to hear. so i trusted him. i opened myself up and decided that if i really wanted this to work i had to give all of myself. i had to let my emotions run my relationship. so i did. then these little things started happening like little holes that were ripping apart my ''love''. a thought he was living a secret life because of this Facebook account in another name that had all his info on it and even a picture of himself as the front picture. he tried saying that he had a friend that liked to steal his idenity. so i let it go. but before i realized it this ''friend'' was popping up in every argument we had. he was always blaming this person for his actions....
he started flirting with my 2 best friends...i started getting forwarded perverted messages that weren't just for me but for this other girl....he asked me if i would let him ''fake'' date this other girl i completely hated just to hurt her...but i let it all go. because i thought i ''loved'' him. then this one thing happened that changed it all. he was commenting on Facebook with such girl, and was saying how much he loved her and wanted to be with her. how he was ''waiting'' for her and didn't give a crap about me. the person to tell me this is my current boyfriend. of course after seeing this is fresh and blood, i asked him what was going on. he blamed it on his friend, lets call him joey. i wasnt going for it this time. i made him change this passward and he gave me his new one, trying to prove he was innocent in what was said.
but i was smarter than that.
i admit. i went into this Facebook messages and read all of the messages from the moment we started dating up till the present date. 5 girls counting my 2 friends he cheated with. i found out the 6th by going onto one of his SEVEN other Facebook profiles. as if one wasn't enough to cheat on me with he had 7 accounts. i broke up with him. and he tried to guilt trip me. ''I'm going to kill myself if i cant have you. i love you. your my baby girl. ill be a better boyfriend i promise. please just give me another chance'' i never listened to him and needless to say hes not dead.
the moral to my story? move on, pick yourself up. its possible. its not the end. give yourself another life. he/she is not worth it. don't give them more of yourself then you already have. thats what they want. give them the only thing they deserve.
give them the TRUTH, never satisfy them with a LIE.
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